WORD. Let's reset our defaults to "the loss of human life is always a tragedy (though some tragedies are that the person did not live that well)." Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind.

That said, sometimes if I hear a friend or acquaintance's family member has died, I may ask whether condolences are in order, but that just says something about the circles I move in and the general prevalence of abuse survivors in them.