Yeah one of the ones I was mentioning is totally one where the other person doesn't admit there's something that needs fixing.

She's family, and it's not worth creating Family Rupture over, but it also means that I very deliberately make sure that we're never alone without someone else (adult) there. Because she won't start pushing at things when someone else is around, and it lets me avoid actually getting so hurt/angry that I . . . well, we finish having the fight I EMPHATICALLY left the last time there was the opportunity to fight. Because it'll involve me going for her liver. And I don't actually want to do that, so.